Too many cultures around the world today believe in the ‘survival of the fittest’ mentality. The need to compete with others and the idea that if a colleague or competitor achieves success, it means that we miss out in some way. This couldn’t be further from the truth.
It is in helping others to succeed, grow and develop that we succeed, grow and develop. As Adam Grant states in his wonderful book Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success, “If we create networks with the sole intention of getting something, we won’t succeed. We can’t pursue the benefits of networks; the benefits ensue from investments in meaningful activities and relationships.”
People want to engage with those that they trust and respect and this won’t happen for you if you have a competitive mentality.
The majority of people go to networking events on the hunt for the person they can get the most out of. This intention can usually be felt immediately by the ‘target’ and often doesn’t result in a successful outcome. Why not try to go out and ‘meet the world’ with the intention to serve? With every person you meet ask ‘How can I help this person? Who do I know that I could introduce them to to help them on their journey?’
Setting and executing this intention will generate a feeling of greater connection and…you will be amazed at the doors that will gracefully open.
As John Andrew Holmes so wisely states “No exercise is better for the human heart than reaching down and lifting another up.”
Don’t wait another day to extend your hand. It is in serving others that we reap the greatest rewards.
To an Exceptional Existence,
If you would like to read more on this, Jim Sanders has written an excellent booked called ‘Love Is the Killer App: How to Win Business and Influence Friends’. Click here for more information.