How much time do we spend enveloped in others opinions of who we are?
In the wise words of Deepak Chopra, ‘What others think of you is none of your business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life’.
We spend so much time trying to impress and get to know other people inside and out and believe that in doing that, we will feel good about and pleased with ourselves.
It’s not often that we take time to stop and ponder on what we think about ourselves. We don’t spend time getting to know who we really are and giving ourselves the kind of positive reinforcement that we so eagerly seek from others.
Not only is our own opinion easier to access and understand but it is when we place attention on how it is that we feel about ourselves that we find a world of greater control and fulfillment.
This is a continuous journey of discovery and self-work. It’s not easy. When you feel yourself making strides, you can sometimes unconsciously find yourself on the ‘I need your approval to feel good about me’ track but, when you find yourself on that train, treat it with kindness. Acknowledge it and commit to moving forward stronger and more determined than before.
In the end, those people you are trying to impress are most probably too busy trying to impress others to really care about what you are doing. Not only that, it’s not their life, it’s yours. People will come and go. The ones that appreciate you for who you are and the strength you have in your self-belief will be the ones that should stay in your life. And…in being strong in who you are and only really needing your own self approval, you will give others the strength to do the same.
To an Exceptional Existence,
Lou
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